New year’s resolution?

It’s the end of the year again, that time of the year where I start questioning myself, “what have I been doing this past year?” Usually I can’t recall much, just feeling like another year has gone like that. Every year people ask me, what’s your new year’s resolution & sadly, every year I fail to complete my “new year’s resolution” (the failure part of my resolution is to workout weekly & get fit btw HAHAAHA).

Sometime last week, I had this casual chat with a friend of mine (talking bout you Bella! 😂) about weddings, thoughts on life & random stuff. Out of the blue she asked me, “What’s your new year’s resolution?” which inspired me to write this post.

Sometime this year in April, one of my dogs passed away due to old age. He was the first dog I had that I got see him grow from a tiny puppy the size of guinea pig to a fully grown doggo. He hated taking a bath & he’d only allow me to scrub him when he has to, staring at me with his kind hazel brown eyes. Towards the end of his life with us, I was mostly away due to my studies abroad & never got to spend as much time as I did before. I still remember the night before he passed, I could see it in his eyes that he was suffering, but when I smiled at him, he’d smile back to tell me that it was okay. He then left us the next morning.

His passing made me regret not bonding with him as much as I should have, even though I probably wont be able to answer you how much time would even be “enough” as things like this will never be enough. I think us humans are greedy when it comes to time. We take for granted that it’ll always be there, but it goes by so fast & we complain it’s never enough.

Ever since I started working I had a taste of what it was like to be living the “sad life” (as quoted by my little cousin). Repeating everyday like a routine with weekends flying by like nothing. (Don’t get me wrong but I love what I’m currently doing now hahaha!) Often when you start working, you’ll get caught up in work that you forget to enjoy the life infront of you. I’m somewhat a workaholic in a way that i’ll get too focused at work & forget about the time. This year & the years to come, I don’t wanna be thinking about the things I’ve done throughout the year & be like, wow I’ve done nothing.

My new year’s resolution is to take some time for myself at least twice a year, to take up a hobby class, do charity, learn something new or go on a trip. I’ve always missed the days where I went for art classes every weekend & that accomplished, proud feeling that I get when I’ve completed an artwork. Maybe one day I’ll paint something again? I’ve also always wanted to learn a new language (Korean!) & maybe work on my cantonese more hahah! Doing pottery, flower arrangements, soap making... the list goes on.

There are so many things that I love & always wanted to do but never got on to doing just because I’ve always felt like “I’ll have time for that”. Time flies & you wont know when your time is up either. Maybe its too soon to say but I want to make use of everyday doing the things I love & being happy. Lucky I’m quite a forgetful person & often don’t hold grudges because often I just can’t remember them!

Although going into the working life or maybe starting your own family life, there’s going to commitments, but to me, you can still take time for yourself as this is your life. I don’t wanna be like 50 & only getting to enjoy life because the kids are all grown up.

Time is precious. Do what makes you happy & be kind :)

That’s my new year’s resolution. What’s yours? 

Thought post: Life priorities

Hi there. If you came across this post from one of my other posts or even from stalking me (paisieh for the perasan-ness but could be true ma! 😂), I would like to say thank you & sorry. 

Thank you for taking interest in my blog & supporting me in one way or another. And, sorry for not updating consistently. Yes most part of the reason is (as cliche & typical as it may be), I just lost motivation.

I guess at that period of time, my priorities in life changed. With my degree studies in Singapore & having to update my academic blog weekly (which btw you can read here), coming up with topics to write often led me to a halt. At some point, I was forcing out content, in which I am not proud of & is not what I stand for at all. 

Last night I had insomnia from drinking too much tea, which rarely ever happens. But it made me think about blogging again. About how much I miss it & how great it made me feel having people tell me that they love reading my blog & how meticulous I am with what I write. Even though I may not have thousands of views on every post nor am I super good in writing, I always want anything I write to be rich in content, hopefully helping someone out with my sharing even if it benefits just a few people. I was up till 4 am typing this draft on my phone, but it felt good. I felt alive & ecstatic again, in which I haven't felt like that in a long time. SG life made me feel so dead inside for 1.5 years hahaha!

With my first full time job since graduating coming up, I wonder if I will go MIA from blogging again if I start again now. Especially since I will literally have to create content & write a lot for my job. That's the thing about me, I tend to over think things too much & am too cowardly to take a step even if people around me know I can do it.

But hey, life is too short to worry too much about the things that may not necessarily happen. I may not know where my direction is at next year, next month or even tomorrow, but now, today I know that I still love sharing content & blogging about my experiences. I guess last time around blogging didn't work out too well with the weekly updates as I was all over the place, without any proper planning (which is so not me!) & no direction on the content I wanted to post, I was just all over the place. Some times I purposely head somewhere for the sake of updating my blog and forget to enjoy the moment, something I definitely wont want to happen again.

There were so many things I wanted to share & never got on to doing it, like my travel diaries (I was blessed to go on 4 trips within a year), some DIYs, recipes & other random stuff. If it's not too late, I would definitely do it all (#throwback!), which would be nice to read it again after a few years. This time, I'll do things differently. I'm not going to stress myself over a weekly update & any how produce something meh. This time I'll do it in my pace & enjoy every moment of it.

Note to present self, & maybe you who are reading...

"Never be too busy making a living that you forget to make a life for yourself."

Find what makes you happy & just do it. ♡

Diary of a girl transitioning to life abroad

Hey guys! Since I'm feeling expressive today, here's a post for those of you who's soon to be starting a new journey with life abroad. If you haven't guessed it already, the "girl" in the title is me. Not many of you know or noticed but I've been in Singapore for a month now. It surely wasn't a sudden decision but I never really told many people but just the ones close to me. I guess I really just didn't want to make a big deal out of it since I would only be gone for less than 2 years. Or maybe I just couldn't bear to leave if my friends threw me a farewell (in which will confirm happen if they knew when I was leaving hahaha)

Yeah, they didn't know. Only my boyfriend knew the exact date because he insisted to send me off. I initially didn't even want him to come because it'll be so hard to say goodbye. Eventhough it may be just a month till I come back again, it seems like years. Same goes to my friends and family. I guess I'm weird in my way that I'd rather leave silently than have a huge farewell and have everyone send me off. To me, it seems easier that when no one knows you're leaving, you wont have to worry about people missing you when they don't know you're gone. I'm truly blessed that my friends understood why I did that and still gave me their best wishes. Especially those of you whom took the time to personally send me a text, long or short, it was nice that you guys care and remembered. :')

It might have been selfish of me not telling my friends about it, but packing my bags and doing the last minute check list was hard enough, let alone just leaving like that. You wont want to know how many times I've quietly shed a few tears while packing. It was just a rush of mixed emotions, I felt excited for my journey, yet afraid and sad to leave home. I pictured myself missing out on all the life events back home and I'm abroad on my own too many times it was truly depressing. Especially when most of my friends are in KL and its me somewhere else. I always kept in mind that "no need to worry, I'll be coming back, 1.5 years will just fly by, and you can do it." It was actually how I got through it to come here feeling alright. Thankfully, the constant reminder of why I came here in the first place keeps that spark going, thus motivates me to keep striving for that dream and don't stop. Especially when there's so much at stake, I know I have to do my best and cant afford let my parents down. "When you know your goals and target in life, it will take you far because you know what you want." I just have to keep reminding myself every now and then. 

I'd have to say, I didn't really countdown till my last days in KL before going off. I basically just wanted to make the most out of 2016. And towards like the last week of being in KL, all my stuff were packed, paper work and immigration stuff were done, everyday I wakeup thinking to myself, "Shit, this is really happening. This is as real as it can gets. Too late to turn back already." Yeap I thought of not going and giving up, but I didn't want myself to regret years from now of what "could have been". I just needed to endure it for a little while, as it'll get better. I mean, "you only live once, you might as well make the most out of it."

The first two weeks was absolutely awkward for me. Everyone in class had their own gang and friends which left me very out of place not knowing how to fit in. And this is coming from someone who is very sociable and talkative AF. Everyday I was just waiting for class to end so I could just go home and be done with the day. Thankfully for Dav who was the first person that talked to me in class which made me feel not too left out. Also thanks to her, she took me in to her group and I will always be blessed for that. T.T You dont know how scary it was for me not knowing who to be grouped with and if you pick the wrong people they're going to drag you down and you cant do anything about it. I was more worried to be the left out one no one wants to take in to their groups and I will be like the loner. hahaha okay I admit I'm terrified to be alone. Especially in this kind of situations.

As time went by, I guess I'm starting to fit in now and it may have taken hundreds of baby steps but at least there's progress. I do still get homesick every now and then but I'm glad I'm staying with close family friends instead of in a hostel. It really helps staying with people you're close with that you can call your second family because you'll ultimately feel less lonely with the companionship of familiar faces. I'm roomies with my childhood friend which I'm glad that I am because she keeps me sane as I talk like shit loads and cannot imagine living alone without going nuts.

Truth be told, I've always dreamt of studying abroad like in the US or UK because of how nice a different lifestyle would be like and envied my friends who had the chance to do so. Until today I still pinch myself thinking, "This is really happening and I really am living my dream of studying abroad". Okay la not far like a 20 hour flight kind of far but still, abroad.

Singapore is not too bad la and I'm starting to like this country despite its PMS-ing weather. Yeah PMS-ing weather cuz it will be sunny and 5 mins later raining heavy as shit and suddenly stop. When it rains, its like the roof is gonna fly off and I think I also will fly away wan. There was one morning the rain was so heavy, the streets were flooded and I got soaked. Not because of the pouring rain but the "so smart" drivers who just speed through the puddles and I got splashed not one, not two but THREE fxcking times in one day. FML. That was when I really missed my car back in KL hahaha! KL people damn pampered with the luxury of owning a car lo, cuz it was shocking to see those Singaporeans just go through the rain like it's nothing. LIKE WTF!? But anyway that was the day my roomie said, "Welcome to Singapore." Okay SG, I got your official welcome real clear already.

So there was this other time where I had terrible diahorrea in the morning. And I had class in the morning. Thankfully, the family I'm staying with gave me a lift to my second bus stop (I take 2 buses to school which takes an hour fml) and I arrived just on time. Every now and then I get to carpool along to the nearest MRT which I'm really blessed for. You may think that's nothing but to me I'll always remember these little things people have did for me and will always repay the favour whenever I can.

It's been 1 of out 18 months, and the most important thing I've learnt is to be thankful. Everyday I wakeup feeling grateful for what I have, for the opportunity that I've been given to study abroad as not everyone has that chance to, and nonetheless the sacrifices and hardship my parents done to send me here. Seeing the currency depreciate day by day makes things pressuring for me to work harder so that I can prove to my parents that the money put in to my education was worth it.

So to those who are going to study abroad as well, or even just furthering their studies, keep this in mind and always, always be thankful for what you are given and remember to give back. :)

Till next time!
♥

To all the lost wanderers. Including myself.

Hey guys! I know I haven't been updating for almost a year now due to juggling my final project and going through my internship. But I'm back now! I've actually been pretty free ever since July this year but I never took the initiative to blog again. Until today that is.

As a fresh grad, I felt relieved that I've survived the hectic 2 and a half years. It was far from normal and was a whole lot more dramatic than expected, but I truly learnt way more from what I opt for and grown maturely as a person. Somehow when all of it ended, I start to kinda miss the college life I had. Back in college, I just had to stick my class schedule and sit in lectures. Everything was easy and all I had to do was just given to me like that. With that all over, I'm now left with "What to do now?" I guess we as humans are too used to being comfortable doing the same things on a daily basis, suddenly when everything's gone and with nothing new to cope to, we get lost.

Finding myself. That's what I've been asking myself to do everyday as a float through these few months just like that. Okay, I wasn't literally doing nothing the past few months, instead I was pretty much distracting myself from facing the music. I bet a lot of you in your early 20's probably went through the same phase I am going through right now - not knowing what lies ahead and feeling scared about taking chances. I always play it safe and strive for perfection which perhaps only led me here, but could I have gone further? That is what I wonder. Having to take the first step and trying something new is not something I'm used to. K you can call me a scaredy cat but when it has to do with a huge part of your future I can't just close one eye and do it. I have to think about all the possibilities and examine from A-Z. I guess my weakness is I tend to overthink things sometimes.

The other day I was scrolling through my Facebook news feeds and saw someone share this article featuring the best of HIMYM quotes. I'm a huge fan of HIMYM and  watched every episode of the 9 seasons possibly at least once *or even twice* Anyway, I stumbled across some great quotes.

#1

"If you're not scared, you're not taking a chance. And if you're not taking a chance, then what the hell are you doing?"

Seriously, if you're not taking a chance, then what the hell are you doing? I've always played things safe according to my plans and always knew what was the end result. But I'll always wonder "what if?". What if I did it differently, took things to a different route from the usual, would the outcome be better? I guess I gotta keep reminding myself that and not regret from all the "what if's"

#2

"That's life, you know, we never end up where you thought you wanted to be."

Again, as someone who plans my everyday, I always expect to know how an outcome would be like. However sometimes life doesn't go as planned and we might not end up where we thought we wanted to be. We all get scared about the unknown because we don't know what lies ahead. But hey, think about it this way, where's the fun if you knew all the little surprises in life?

#3

"Sometimes you have to experience the lows because it helps you give new perspectives on life and sometimes the right perspective makes all the difference."

Okay, this quote isn't from HIMYM but WongFu gives great advice too! Anyway, so even if life gives you some unexpected "surprises", embrace them, delve into them, learn from them and become a better you from them. Everyone is afraid to fail, no one wants to fall but you can always get up when you do. We all don't just know how to ride a bike on day one right?

Okay, last thing if you still ain't motivated. Here's a speech by Philip from WongFu to let you guys know you're not alone.

Bestie's farewell *sobs*

I bet a lot of you have had farewells for your friends whom will be furthering their studies abroad. It's not easy having to say goodbye to someone who's going to be far away for several years especially if that person is your best friend. Well, this was what I had to go through on Sunday, having to say farewell to my bestie. :( Yeah it was happy in the beginning and we did what we promised months ago, which was to hang out at our "老地方" from opening time (6pm) until it was closing time (12am). We really did it and sat till midnight and it was pretty fun hahahah! Anyway, like any special occasion for a bestie or a person dear to me, there's sure to be a card/book lol. This time it was an album for her to keep and bring it along so she can view it whenever she misses us. :)

The bestie loves bling so I blingified the farewell word lor! :D

Every little page in the book takes me at least 45mins each to do since I cut everything by hand. Well not going to say how long it took to complete this but I started like 9 months before actual farewell hahaha! Okay la, not showing everything because it's private :P

My bestie is going to be a doctor! Ok la, dentist doc whatever but she's going to be Dr Kong like the shoe brand LOLOLOL!

No farewell should have the absence of polaroid photos! There was one ruined polaroid which looked really spooky cuz the top half of our face was just black and ewww ! Wasted 1/6 films I had left lor! ISH! Should have bought another box.

Anyway, if this is our 老地方 (Wings Musicafe @ Connaught Avenue) because well, we all are Cheras people and this is like near for most of us ahahha! Plus, good atmosphere cuz there's people singing from 8pm onwards and you can get them to sing any song dedications for friends! If you're lucky like us that day, maybe the singer is a cute handsome guy lehhh ... :P

Oh it's Halloween month and they've got Halloween decor everywhere in the restaurant and a special Halloween menu as well! SO CUTE LO! Like me so wadat wan sure will try the Halloween menu what! I mean, limited time only so why not! My friends kept saying I'm so disguisting. Whut. So sad xia :'( 

Hello my bestie / 主角 of the night ! <3

Her expression when I dont snap a slimming photo of her.. Sad to be me because I'm her driver, part time boyfriend (she's the girlfriend cuz she's got more boobs than me xD) and photographer hahahah!

Vain mode caught on camera :P

While waiting for our food, selfie la of course! :P

#selfiewithcamera

#selfiewithphone

#someoneisthirdwheeling #hint #itstheleftperson :P

#moreselfiesbecausewhynot

Finally after a gazillion selfies, the food arrives! Okay, the drink arrives. This is my drink / alien's blood / energy potion??

There's actually 2 more flavours, human blood and dont know what else blood. I chose the blue one cuz red coloured drinks normally tastes like cherries and medicine which I really hate! >:( My friend asked me what did my drink taste like. I answered colouring. Okay la, it doesn't taste like colouring eventhough there's alot of it *I dont normally drink these stuff wan* but it kinda tastes like the Tuitty Fruity flavour? hahaha anyway it's surprisingly not that sweet and better than what I expect from a heavily coloured drink.

And this is my fried rice with fingers because why not. This dish alone is RM14.90 if I'm not mistaken, and if you get it in a set, it's RM20.90 with drinks and a mushroom soup. The mushroom soup doesn't look Halloween-ish so no photo of that! :P

Mmmm.. Just me drinking my alien's blood. Nothing special here.

Amanda who loves asking people to help her take photos. I'm one of the victims.. hahaha! joking. Amanda please don't smack me :D

So that day somehow the singers arrived earlier than normal and started setting up. The guy singer quite cute and got a good voice lo. My pals all like wah cute hahahah!

As usual, we sat at our favourite booth which has these balloon light stuff that creates this super "feel". *spot the fake spider on the other light ball!*

After chowing down our meal, our main girl of the day got to open the album I made and the gifts we got her! Everyone wrote their wishes and put it in as well!

She just roughly looked through the book and if she slowly read the whole thing, I bet she'd cry.

When she was done reading my letter to her, I swear I saw tears!! She just claims its her contact lens but no need to be shy la Xing Wei, cry jiu cry la hahahah! :P

After we were done with our food, the 5 of us proceeded to play some games while waiting for the rest to arrive! One of the late comers had things to do and the other was sick but still rushed over just for the farewell! Oh btw, we played a truth game where the one who got the biggest number will get to ask the one who got the smallest number a question and they have to answer the truth. Quite a number secrets were exposed that night and we promised that it wouldnt leave that table hahaha! It was quite fun though because there were some pretty deep questions which led our bond to be even closer since we shared something deep. Some sad memories of mine were dug up and it was quite sad remembering them again but it was good that they finally knew that I felt like that and how much I gone through. It was great though :)

Us making a special song request for Amanda who's birthday just passed. 

Finally our turtle Nie came right from work and just in time to blow out the candles with Amanda! Hui Nie's birthday was actually a day before our gathering.

Awwwh the birthday girls hugging it out as they're finally in the 19 club!

Me and the two pretty birthday girls! <3

After a long night of laughing and bonding, we took a group photo and it's actually a remake of one of our photos taken a year ago. Of course we exchanged hugs and that was when the tears started flowing. I was the first to hug Xing Wei and I literally couldn't hug her for more than 5 seconds cuz our memories just went through my mind and suddenly with her not there for the following years, it's just going to be different. The thought of it just made me cry. :'( </3

Last selfies before we go our separate ways.

I'm just going to miss you so much! :'(

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Hope you've enjoyed what we arranged and done for you and dont kill me for posting your ugly photo ya! :D

Oh enjoy these 2 videos ya! Both very short only just watch lar :P
This is filmed and edited by Hui ting!

This is done by me using those video apps hahahaha! Okay enjoy! <3

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To my best friend, cousie, partner in crime & sister for life

Judging from the title of this post, you'll probably know it's a dedication post to my bestie. *if you're reading this, this one is for you :) hope you read it before you get on your flight :P*

I bet everyone has a best friend in their life and if you've got more than one then awesome for you! Having to spend time hanging out or in school, thus share everything from secrets to moments in growing up with your best friend is just a blessing and pure happiness. Every waking moment spent with them is just joy and that you just want time to slow down for awhile so you can reminisce or repeat that feeling all over again. That was what I got to share with my bestie, Sakai Xing Wei. *she calls me that too! :P* Most of us even wish or believe that we could be sisters from our past lives or even some how related with our best friend and lucky enough for me, I actually am somehow related with mine! Funny right? What are the odds that your best friend was actually a distant cousin of yours you never knew about? (Her grandma's sister married my grandma's brother) Rare. But that was what we shared and I guess it makes me feel even more like we were destined to be besties for life. :)

Of course, not everyday is happiness and sunshine with all things sweet and wonderful. Yes, there were some downs, arguments and misunderstandings throughout these 6 years being besties with her. But all the downs could be counted with a single set of hands because despite being two pretty different people, we share the same way of thinking. We can even communicate by just staring at each other and we can get what each other is thinking already. Talk about best friend superpowers! :P Even our "ji muis" in our gang just don't get our bond and how the heck we click so well which even I myself have no friggin' clue la. I guess we always take the time to listen to each others matter and don't fight about guys so that's like around 892034710 less arguments already. Okay la, we have different tastes in guys so... ahahah! A note to girls: no boy is worth ruining a great friendship but if that dude is really yours and your so called "bestie" doesn't stop fighting with you over him, then bye bye friend la xD

Anyway back to the topic! Even after all the ups and downs with her, we always held it together. Being truly best friends with someone, you really need to always look out for them, have each others back no matter what, be honest when we need to, patiently listen to each others problems, lend a helping hand or shoulder to cry on when needed and such. We did all that especially having each others back no matter what cuz whoever messed with either one of us, we'd fight back (in arguing) together and we were unstoppable *self-proclaimed lol*! I mean we have to had done something right since we are still standing strong today. I can say that without my bestie, I wouldn't be the person I am today. The high school years I've had was a roller coaster ride and had a bumpy start of me not realizing my hurtful actions towards the people around me, being quite lonely and left out not knowing why, but it was her who gave me a chance to change myself and be a better person. I guess it was the gesture of someone believing in me even after being an awful person led me to strive harder to change and be a better me. Thank you for believing in me and making the following years in high school were the best time of my life. *also must thank my other ji muis and everyone else that came in my life la :P*

We've been through a lot these 6 years of friendship and I've grown attached to her not just because she's my best friend but because she's someone that really knows and understand me like no one else and how can you ever replace that? You can't. Never imagined having someone so dear to me to leave for studying abroad as I probably never even wanted to even think of it at all. Nobody wants that, I don't want that, but it's for the best, it's for her brighter future. As for me, I will just be here supporting her no matter what, being that faithful friend since day one and waiting for her when she comes back. I will always remember the days we used to write our conversations in a book and passed it to each other everyday to write, my gosh, the book would be colourful and full of gossips. Also when we finish each other's sentences to help one another in mini "fights" we had with other people, that was pretty fun ahahah. To write down every great memory we've had would be totally insane because there were just too many great ones. I guess I'll just say that the memories we shared will be cherished and I just wish all the best to my dear bestie. I will truly miss you a lot.. :'(

Sad to see you go but it's for the best. :) 

Aisks.. I was literally sobbing and tearing up when typing this whole thing.. :/

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#DontJudgeChallenge

I've been seeing a lot of so called "Don't Judge Challenge" done by a bunch of attractive people lately & to be honest, at the beginning I was like, "Wooo! Eye candy!" But after seeing a compilation of these #Dontjudgechallenge videos, I was like, "Okay. This is getting annoying." Honestly, I felt like those attractive looking people were attention seekers who were just doing it to gain likes, shares & popularity for having those good looks they were gifted with. Okay, I don't mean to judge them like that but, that's the impression I get from it & I bet I'm not the only one who feels so. But seriously, do they even know what is the #Dontjudgechallenge about?

In case you didn't know, it was supposed to be a body positive movement for everyone to learn to accept their flaws & imperfections as their natural self while not getting judged by others. Somehow people started adding those "flaws" to themselves & making videos to show how perfectly beautiful, hot or handsome they look in real life. Some even put on makeup to enhance their looks when the movement was supposed to be about being confident in your own skin. The message was to not be afraid to be yourself & you don't need anything like makeup to hide your flaws. It's absolutely okay to put on makeup. Really! But it's also okay to go makeup free & flaunt your natural beauty. :)

I, myself admit that I am not perfect. I have freckled imperfect skin, small eyes that got me bullied & teased all my life which got me to hate my small eyes. I even got sort of jokingly asked to do plastic surgery which wasn't funny at all & was really hurtful. Until now, even though I've stopped hating my eyes & instead felt grateful to have them as my signature look that people remember me for, I still do have my insecurities about it. I will always have this fear of people judging me about it, telling me I'm not pretty because to be pretty, you have to have big eyes. Isn't that one of the features of stereotypical pretty girl? But that's society today. I didn't know that to be attractive you should have this, this & this. Once you had them all, you are considered attractive. I'm not saying that everyone thinks this way but majority of people do.

I also admit that I have & do judge people. We all judge people too quickly with a first impression. I know that judging someone I don't know is wrong, but sometimes I just can't help it. Even so, we should always give our impression on them a second chance until we actually get to know them & their character as some people may be different from what we thought of them to be. But as for appearance wise, it's always not okay to judge someone & insult them on how they look. If someone called you ugly, disgusting or anything like that, how would you feel? You never want it to be said to you so why do it others? It's not like they want themselves to be like that. Who wants it? No one. This is why we should never body shame anyone but instead give them motivational support. Just a simple act of kindness by saying, "hey you look great today!" could easily make someone's day a better one.

So stop with the nonsense #DontJudgeChallenge videos & adding flaws to your face, because it doesn't even help the victims of body shaming at all. Next time before anyone joins such challenges, don't join because it is a trend, do it right because you care.

Lastly, I would like to share a video that I find that really suits this topic. It's not directly about the #DontJudgeChallenge, but it's about how social media can set unrealistic expectations on both women and men. One challenge many face today, is that as a society, we're so used to seeing false images of perfection, and comparing ourselves to unrealistic beauty standards that It can be hard to remember the most important thing - You ARE beautiful. I think that it suits the don't judge challenge because many have the unrealistic expectations on both men & women leading it to body shaming & cyber bullying as these victims are judged by those unrealistic expectations.

"You are beautiful - no matter how flawed you feel, no matter how upset you may about the way you look or how hard you find it to make friends, or be confident. Believe in yourself, and never let anyone tell you're not beautiful - not even yourself." by My Pale Skin.

First blog post!

So, that's me! :) I've always wanted to like really blog because I like giving my opinions and reviews on things and also that I like writing. I'm most definitely not "writer's material", but when I start on something, it just flows! Same goes to me doing arts and crafts! Anyway, I've had other blogs when I was younger but they were kind of my journal kind of thing and not exactly blogging. But now *hopefully* I am discipline enough to maybe update a couple of posts per week kind of thing. I guess in the past it always never hit off due to me being well,
1. super picky, can't seem to get the blogger template that I really like, or
2. even if I did get it, I got lazy after the third post.

But now since I've got 1. covered, I guess I'm going to try my best to update as often as I can! If you know me personally, you'll probably know what I will post most about! That is well food! and maybe #ootds but not everyday I get so hardworking to doll up and pose la. It's just not easy to find the right outfit, at the right place and at the right time you know?

I'll probably post up some stuff about cafes I've been previously and reviews about them or maybe a recent holiday I had that I never posted and slowly work my way to the present because then I wont have excuses to have nothing to post right? ahahah :)

Anyway, time to end this post & start updating about an event I went to yesterday! Stay tuned!



PS: Does anyone know how to add emojis on the post? I've tried using the emoji keyboard but blogger just can't seem to show em. :/